• Why focusing on losing weight is a false bottomed goal that ruins your progress
• How the key to losing weight lies in enjoying life more
• The secret to happy weight loss – (hint: it’s not what you think)
Have you ever felt like losing weight and keeping it off has been this constant struggle in your life and it’s this endless weight loss rollercoaster that you’ve never really gotten off?
Today I’m talking to you about the first of the 7 Deadliest Diet Sins, the critical diet mistakes that you are probably already making – and you don’t even know it.
This one’s probably going to surprise you. It’s actually having a weight loss goal.
That means that you’re constantly looking at the world with these glasses on there saying “there’s something wrong with me”. So you keep looking for things in your environment that supports this belief.
Now, have you ever learnt a new word and once you’ve learnt it it seems to pop up everywhere? Or you’ve seen a new color car and you never saw it before – but once you’ve seen it once then you happen to see it so many times during the day?
Well, this is the kind of recognition that happens if you are looking out at the world thinking that you need to lose weight. You will constantly seek out instances that prove this belief to be true and you will actively ignore and discard instances that say that you’re beautiful and that you’re perfect and that you don’t need to change for anybody.
Do you say, “Oh wow, thanks for noticing. I’m been working really hard” or “Yeah, I do look really awesome, don’t I?”
Or do you say, “Oh my god, I know! wasn’t I so disgusting?” “Yeah, now all I need to do is lose my fat ass.” “Yeah, I’ve lost 10 kilos, now I have to lose this.” “How do I get rid of this? How do I get rid of this? And how do I get rid of this?”
But instead, if you have goals that are more about gaining life so that you’re looking for all the things that are going right in your life, you can fill up on the deliciousness of life instead of always reaching for the chemicals, food, drugs and alcohol to make you feel better.
“I don’t do drugs.”
Yes, girlfriend. Caffeine is a drug. And sugar and starch and carbohydrates also affect our body’s opiate receptors in the brain. So one of the key building blocks is how you focus your attention to losing weight.
Most people think that in order to be successful and happy they need to slim – but I’m sure you’ve been surprised that even when you have lost weight before, all those problems that perhaps you thought were going to disappear are still there because you’re still you and you’re just slimmer.
And even when you get to that magic number, ideal weight, you’re still wanting more, you’re never really satisfied. You’ve got this hunger that is never totally quenched and you go back to those bad habits again – stuffing your face full of food, drugs, alcohol.
When you’re looking out at the world with the glasses that say there’s something wrong with you, you’re more likely to take extreme measures that are difficult to sustain for the long-term – punish yourself doing exercise you really rather not be doing, be overly critical, and you definitely brush off compliments – which is going to lead you no other place than you feeling like crap.
Now when you feel crap, you eat crap. And because you are what you eat you’re going to look crap. Surprise, surprise!!! That’s going to make you continue to feel crap.
All right. So how do you fix this?
Well, you’ve got no other choice but to go about this in a way that you’ve never ever done before. And instead of punishing and forcing your body, you’re going to love your body lean.
So when you have a gain life goal instead of a lose weight goal, it means that you’re looking out at glasses that say, “I appreciate where I am but I’d like to get over there. I feel good now, but I want to feel better.”
And it’s all a matter of perspective. Even though you’re feeling like crap where you are, there are things that you can feel grateful about – the fact that you can walk, the fact that you can breathe.
Well, when you feel good, you’re more likely to eat the food that makes you feel good. Which in turn helps you look good, which (surprise, surprise) helps you to continue to feel good.
Instead of focusing on how much weight you want to lose or rip off your body, focus on how much life you want to gain instead by doing all those fun activities you always said you would do once you’ve lost the weight.
Find things to appreciate about your life and your body even if it’s something really small – and stop postponing your happiness for the day that you weigh a magic number on the scale and start enjoying life as you are right now.
As a result, you’ll just start eating more healthily most of the time and exercising for fun, just because you want to. And then losing weight becomes just a by-product of you being happy, living life.
Today, let go of these expectations that a certain weight on a scale is what’s going to make you happy.
For anyone considering working with Bianca – it’s a real privilege to get Bianca’s brain and energy in your business. There’s a real level of detail and depth of mastery to her work that not many people have. The nuances of energy are so important, because if we’re not aligned, we’ll sabotage ourselves and not make the sales we can.
Even teaching mindset myself, I can’t see my on blind spots, and I loved working with Bianca who is really strong in her own work, who didn’t put me on a pedestal but could really hold space for me and keep me accountable. There was a time that I did have massive anxiety because I was trying to be the strong one for everyone else. But nobody was doing that for me and so, I just fell apart after a while. You can be strong and still need support – that’s how we thrive.
The way Bianca has amalgamated everything is just an incredible, magical process, it was really intriguing for me. The breakthroughs just keep coming – to experience her method, her intuition, it really is the magic of it – she really sees you.
You can move through the stuff, the trauma, without being retraumatised
Every time I work with Bianca I have made more money, I have freed up my life a lot more, I have bought more time back and I’ve deepened my relationships.
What I’ve achieved since is beyond what I had ever imagined. I entered into a new industry and built a multiple 7 figure business in the first 3 months, opened a second office within 6 months and within 1 year we’re at 8 figures.
If you’re thinking about working with Bianca I 200% recommend it.
I was looking for somebody who encouraged me to charge my worth, believe in that work and not be afraid of what I am worth. Many people look at my life and think I had already achieved a lot, but I wanted to expand and grow, and aside from my very supportive husband, I have found it difficult to find people who push me to be better than I am.
Bianca really held me accountable to my vision and helped me branch out from my property software consulting business into coaching. I went from $110/hour sessions to selling over $50,000 in programs within 8 weeks. It was the ease at which it happened that was the best part – I kept accidentally selling people!
12 months after working with Bianca I am booked out 4 weeks in advance. I’m about to hire 12 – 15 staff and I am on a rapid rise to 100k a month. I don’t think I would have gotten here this quickly if it weren’t for Bianca’s support, emotional clearing techniques and big picture questioning. Bianca held me to a higher vision than I had for myself and I’m thrilled with what I’ve achieved
Confidence. Certainty. Courage. Cashflow …
Bianca is the Queen at helping you create all of these (and fast, there’s no f’ing around).
Before working with Bianca I was super stressed and thought it was too hard and I didn’t have time to be successful AND have a healthy life balance. But I was surprised at how quickly the shifts happened. It’s been no coincidence to me that as a result of the new clarity of mind, I’ve actually doubled my business at the same time.