Love or Loathe the scales today?
This is from the page of a well known personal trainer.
As you can see, the status requires that you only give yourself approval once you’ve weighed in, and the followers go on to promote LOVE (conditional upon the scales saying something positive) or BLAME and SHAME.
It begs the question – is the Trainer responsible for writing these statuses? Or is it their social media marketing team? (probably – so then why the attraction?)
I’m not sure – but in my experience this type of negative reinforcement is not only ineffective in the long term to managing your weight, it’s also very dangerous and destructive.
Don’t get me wrong – I applaud any Trainer who is making a change in the lives of others. I think they play an incredible role in helping people lead healthier lives.
HOWEVER, as trainers (and as an ex PT myself), it is in the very essence of who you are, to strive to be the best that you can be. And also to continually educate ourselves – and here’s what I would recommend to anyone who resonates with my message or who has experienced the same up and down battle with their body confidence before.
Firstly – don’t cultivate a love / loathe relationship with the scales.
It leads to blame, shame and guilt – which is proven to produce far more fattening hormones and does more damage than consuming the food itself.
Secondly – the scales DON’T tell the absolute truth.
They are but one tiny piece of the puzzle that allows you to put together a picture of what is happening in your body. They tell you how much water is in your body (W), how much lean tissue (LT) how much useable energy is stored in your muscles (E), how much fat you have (F) and what part of the digestion process you’re in (DP) and its affected by what time of day it is (T.O.D). How late you ate your dinner the night before (D) Oh and whether or not you need to go to the loo (POO).
Okay so what the scales ACTUALLY tells you is
W+LT+E+F+DP / T.O.D x D – POO ….
And that’s apparently supposed to tell you how fat or worthy you are and whether or not you should love or loathe yourself and your efforts .
You know what I think it equals ???????…….
BULLSHIT!
Instead – throw away the scales and use a completely different way to measure your progress.
Spend every day thinking of the best version of yourself and how they would live their life.
Do things that make you truly happy and make choices that honor your body.
Seek out the right information for yourself and your set of circumstances and test and trial them out on yourself.
Exercise for performance not for appearance – or for a ridiculous number that flashes up on the screen of an inanimate object. (You know, the one you promised yourself you’d let yourself be happy once you weighed “that much”)
Surround yourself with supportive people who lift you up, not those who point the finger at you for not “being perfect”. (Who decided being perfect made you successful anyway?)
Above all, know that punishing yourself is never the way to achieving your ideal healthy body. Whoever heard of going on miserable journey battling with self-loathing and arriving at a self-loving destination?
You don’t – because that’s not the way the universe works. The journey teaches us far more important lessons than arriving at the destination does.
Live each and everyday like its the most exciting, challenging, rewarding ride and being grateful for every experience that comes your way.
THAT is the recipe to living a healthier, happier, leaner and lighter life.
Because life is too short to measure your self worth by a number on the scale.
Bianca x
I unleashed my creative genius in a record 2m+ launch!
For anyone considering working with Bianca – it’s a real privilege to get Bianca’s brain and energy in your business. There’s a real level of detail and depth of mastery to her work that not many people have. The nuances of energy are so important, because if we’re not aligned, we’ll sabotage ourselves and not make the sales we can.
Even teaching mindset myself, I can’t see my on blind spots, and I loved working with Bianca who is really strong in her own work, who didn’t put me on a pedestal but could really hold space for me and keep me accountable. There was a time that I did have massive anxiety because I was trying to be the strong one for everyone else. But nobody was doing that for me and so, I just fell apart after a while. You can be strong and still need support – that’s how we thrive.
- Denise Duffield Thomas, Money Mindset Mentor
I launched a new biz and hit 7 figures in 3 months, 8 figures in 12!
The way Bianca has amalgamated everything is just an incredible, magical process, it was really intriguing for me. The breakthroughs just keep coming – to experience her method, her intuition, it really is the magic of it – she really sees you.
You can move through the stuff, the trauma, without being retraumatised
Every time I work with Bianca I have made more money, I have freed up my life a lot more, I have bought more time back and I’ve deepened my relationships.
What I’ve achieved since is beyond what I had ever imagined. I entered into a new industry and built a multiple 7 figure business in the first 3 months, opened a second office within 6 months and within 1 year we’re at 8 figures.
If you’re thinking about working with Bianca I 200% recommend it.
- Candice Tahuri, Family First Care
I went from $110/hr sessions to selling $50,000 in programs within 8 weeks!
I was looking for somebody who encouraged me to charge my worth, believe in that work and not be afraid of what I am worth. Many people look at my life and think I had already achieved a lot, but I wanted to expand and grow, and aside from my very supportive husband, I have found it difficult to find people who push me to be better than I am.
Bianca really held me accountable to my vision and helped me branch out from my property software consulting business into coaching. I went from $110/hour sessions to selling over $50,000 in programs within 8 weeks. It was the ease at which it happened that was the best part – I kept accidentally selling people!
12 months after working with Bianca I am booked out 4 weeks in advance. I’m about to hire 12 – 15 staff and I am on a rapid rise to 100k a month. I don’t think I would have gotten here this quickly if it weren’t for Bianca’s support, emotional clearing techniques and big picture questioning. Bianca held me to a higher vision than I had for myself and I’m thrilled with what I’ve achieved
- Courtney Hill, Property Coach & Consultant
Bianca is THE go-to babe when you really want to up level your results and kick some serious business ass!
Confidence. Certainty. Courage. Cashflow …
Bianca is the Queen at helping you create all of these (and fast, there’s no f’ing around).
Before working with Bianca I was super stressed and thought it was too hard and I didn’t have time to be successful AND have a healthy life balance. But I was surprised at how quickly the shifts happened. It’s been no coincidence to me that as a result of the new clarity of mind, I’ve actually doubled my business at the same time.
- Monique Parker, Velocity Marketing Maven
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