|#Fact 1 I love food. Did I mention that already?|
#Fact 2 I had ZERO will power left. I had completely exhausted my reserves of discipline after a 6 month diet which included 24 egg whites a day and almost 20 hours of cardio a week. I had totally rebounded and was fatter than I was before I started.
#Fact 3 My first memory of being critical of my body was as early as 5 years old. From 14 years on, I spent at least 10 years on the diet-binge-diet cycle trying to hate and punish myself skinny (and it never really worked).
Fact #4 Healthy eating and exercise is now just an effortless choice and as a result my body maintains a healthy weight (and I think I have a rockin body no matter what it looks like)
At the beginning of this e-book, I shared how I was *this close* to getting up and walking out of a Gala event in tears because I was so disgusted at my appearance. Even though I was being recognised for my efforts at getting the community healthier, I felt like a big fat hypocrite…
But if I had left I would have missed out on the best night ever! It was the first time my Dad had been able to come to an awards night since my parents divorced 10 years earlier. Along with my sister and husband, we were all in stitches from laughing so hard and exhausted from dancing like crazy people.
Looking back I can see how important it was that I stayed that night. But tragically I can think of a thousand other times that I avoided social situations and missed out on precious moments with my family because I didn’t feel comfortable in my body.
I was ashamed of living in a Fat Suit that was hiding who I really was.
I was sick of constantly researching new diets and trying to find ways to motivate myself.
I was exhausted from beating myself up down because I’d failed yet again at another unsustainable diet.
But most of all, I was sick of disappointing my husband – of keeping myself shut off from him, recoiling from his touch or snapping at him when I felt bad about myself. Or just in general not being present with him and able to receive his love when it counted the most.
And then I discovered something.
A BIG something.
A necessary something that needs to happen in order for ANY woman to be happy in herself.
In that first mindset coaching session Kylie helped me uncover that the reason why I couldn’t stick to a diet was because ….
in my subconscious mind I had associated dieting with a long, desolate road to nowhere!
Dieting to me conjured up an image of a black and white Western movie, complete with “stand off” music and a tumbleweed blowing against a backdrop of bleak nothingness.
In contrast I imagined what it would take to achieve my ideal body to be like a Rollercoaster – exciting, exhilarating, exhausting and something magical and special that you would find at a theme park. Something that you build up in your mind as an event out there in the future, for you to experience for just a short moment one day, and then leave maybe never to return again, or at least for several years!
Subconsciously I DIDN’T believe I could sustain my healthy weight like it was just a normal everyday occurrence.
And I believed you could achieve your goals but only for a short period of time, and you had to go through a huge, dreary trip of lonely suffering and sacrifice to get there.
For a long time afterwards, I just let life carry me along. I started leaving work on time, I pursued other interests and started exercising again – but only gently and when I felt like it.
I enjoyed my Friday night pizza routine and savoured every mouthful of the rocky road ice-cream I fought so hard to quit in the past.
But I remember often being surprised at my reflection in glass doors, I would giggle to myself that the body I was wearing seemed bigger than what I expected to see.
And then people started asking if I had lost weight.
I wasn’t sure? I never checked anymore and the batteries in my scales were flat.
And then I noticed my pants getting looser.
Only a little bit at first.
But over time…. it was a lot.
And the less I forced and the more I listened – the better and better my pants seemed to fit.
And other things in my life started to become more and more successful!
(But I’ll tell you more about THAT later.)
It wasn’t 5:2 Intermittent Fasting or Ketosis (I just didn’t have the discipline or will power anymore!)
It wasn’t pills (gave me the worst headaches and made me think I was psycho)
It wasn’t 1200 Calorie meal plans (omg starving & the sugar cravings were mental!)
Here’s what I did:
I gave up.
I gave up trying to lose weight and constantly figuring out what foods I should and shouldn’t eat.
Instead I started to focus on WHY I ate the way I did and WHY my body felt the need to protect itself with this extra surplus of stored fat.
By treating the excess weight, low energy, irritable mood and sugar cravings as just SYMPTOMS of an underlying cause, I stopped being so goddamn judgemental of myself.
And as time went by I even stopped seeing myself as a failure.
That was the really the thing that changed it all for me – it blew my mind how much I just naturally gravitated towards healthy foods when I believed my success was inevitable.
It’s almost 10 years on now from when Kylie and I first met – since then she’s been my mindset coach (still is), she’s certified me as a NLP practitioner (neuro-linguistic-programming) and now she’s my best friend and Godmother to my son.
We spent 2 years co-creating material together before venturing off on our own projects again, including the All or Nothing Antidote: “Lifestyle Weightloss” a term we coined when more and more ladies sent us messages like this:
Hey! I’m super busy so have been a bit slow implementing the program.
But one of my wins so far is I’ve lost 5kg!
Whoop Whoop! I don’t know how? Lol.
I eat treats everyday!
Hey B! Life is going great, just went on holidays with the kids and I’ve got a new job that I’m loving. Oh and by the way I’ve lost 10kg since we last spoke!
I’ve lost 1kg since we started, and I still ate cake 5 times this week. How is this even possible?
This is what happens when you focus on progress not perfection – when you remove the inner mindset obstacles to healthy eating and exercise so that it becomes just an easy and effortless and natural thing that you do.
So as a result of living your best life – the weight just seems to melt off.
Kylie and are both a testament to this process with our own personal journey, but it’s not just been limited to us – we’ve helped hundreds of women repeat this approach time and time again.
Now I have to be 100% honest with you – I didn’t have just one NLP coaching session and suddenly I was magically hypnotised to be healthy all the time.
In the next lesson I’ll tell you WHERE I struggled and WHAT I did to fix it.
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Even teaching mindset myself, I can’t see my on blind spots, and I loved working with Bianca who is really strong in her own work, who didn’t put me on a pedestal but could really hold space for me and keep me accountable. There was a time that I did have massive anxiety because I was trying to be the strong one for everyone else. But nobody was doing that for me and so, I just fell apart after a while. You can be strong and still need support – that’s how we thrive.
The way Bianca has amalgamated everything is just an incredible, magical process, it was really intriguing for me. The breakthroughs just keep coming – to experience her method, her intuition, it really is the magic of it – she really sees you.
You can move through the stuff, the trauma, without being retraumatised
Every time I work with Bianca I have made more money, I have freed up my life a lot more, I have bought more time back and I’ve deepened my relationships.
What I’ve achieved since is beyond what I had ever imagined. I entered into a new industry and built a multiple 7 figure business in the first 3 months, opened a second office within 6 months and within 1 year we’re at 8 figures.
If you’re thinking about working with Bianca I 200% recommend it.
I was looking for somebody who encouraged me to charge my worth, believe in that work and not be afraid of what I am worth. Many people look at my life and think I had already achieved a lot, but I wanted to expand and grow, and aside from my very supportive husband, I have found it difficult to find people who push me to be better than I am.
Bianca really held me accountable to my vision and helped me branch out from my property software consulting business into coaching. I went from $110/hour sessions to selling over $50,000 in programs within 8 weeks. It was the ease at which it happened that was the best part – I kept accidentally selling people!
12 months after working with Bianca I am booked out 4 weeks in advance. I’m about to hire 12 – 15 staff and I am on a rapid rise to 100k a month. I don’t think I would have gotten here this quickly if it weren’t for Bianca’s support, emotional clearing techniques and big picture questioning. Bianca held me to a higher vision than I had for myself and I’m thrilled with what I’ve achieved
Confidence. Certainty. Courage. Cashflow …
Bianca is the Queen at helping you create all of these (and fast, there’s no f’ing around).
Before working with Bianca I was super stressed and thought it was too hard and I didn’t have time to be successful AND have a healthy life balance. But I was surprised at how quickly the shifts happened. It’s been no coincidence to me that as a result of the new clarity of mind, I’ve actually doubled my business at the same time.